New School Year - New Nerves

A new school year brings a mix of emotions for children and caretakers alike. Each child experiences the beginning of the year uniquely, and it can be challenging for caretakers to watch their children venture into the world, especially if they're upset or anxious.

While the goal is for children to leave school smiling, this may take time for some. The first step is allowing them to adjust. Like adults, children find change scary and overwhelming, needing time to feel safe and comfortable. Validate their feelings by saying, "It's okay to be scared/nervous/worried. I feel the same way when starting something new."

Avoid rushing into problem-solving mode. Instead, let them process their feelings and understand that it's normal to feel this way. Remind them they're safe, loved, and that you'll return at the end of the day. Keep goodbyes brief, as prolonging them can intensify emotions. Allowing them to stay home may have negative long-term effects, teaching avoidance rather than coping with challenges.

Discuss the drop-off process and daily schedule beforehand to help normalize the routine. For younger children, creating a "picture book" of their day can provide helpful visuals. Some children benefit from having a tangible item connecting them to you, such as matching bracelets, a family photo, or a heart drawn on their hand. Inform the teacher about these special objects so they can remind the child when needed.

Book recommendations to introduce this concept include "The Invisible String" by Patrice Karst and "The Kissing Hand" by Audrey Penn. Practice simple breathing exercises or child-friendly meditations on the way to school to help them learn self-regulation techniques.

If problems persist, consult the school counselor and communicate openly with the teacher for additional suggestions. Remember, every child adjusts differently to new situations, so patience and understanding are key.